In other words, eternal marriage really is worth it, I think. But he told me that he needs a wife who could take care of him, kids and house. Because service is important in the Mormon faith, she may be interested in doing something that will help others, like helping someone clean their yard. If he's too tired from work to go to a party that we both wanted to go to, then I'm cool with staying in since I just enjoy his company and am happy to finally be seeing him.




I find that I walk on egg shells when he is home. We have a strong relationship, so I am lucky - but lately the demands of family are becoming a bit too much to handle - and I really don't know how to 'deal' with my inlaws and 'sharing' my husband with them. He states that if he is making such a tremendously better income, it would be selfish of me to put our children in daycare in the future so I can work. You should both sit down and have a serious conversation about what you want and what she wants and if you can both deal with the compromise. It was a complete turn around from what I'd previously seen from her but obviously it was something she'd been thinking about. Not one little bit. It is highly likely that she will pressure you to convert, and if you resist, she may resent you for being the barrier to her being sealed to her children.
In other words, eternal marriage really is worth it, I think. All those are reasons to give the church some elbow room but they are not reasons for actually staying. Fortunately most of my immediate family has done better. If I had one thing to add, mixed race marriages are quite similar. Recently though she has been quite distant, although this may be due to a combination of reasons - such as family sickness and now being on nights. It may not seem like a big deal now, but eventually it will probably surface that at best, the church impacts and influences her behavior in almost every area, at worst, it dictates it. It is helpful to know that there are others who are experiencing the same emotions and to hear about your coping methods and advice. If you end up marrying a true believing Mormon, your marriage will be a threesome. It hasn't been easy for me to create a regular social life that involves me missing a husband. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Where we have just started dating less then a year now. I must admit that this life comes with a lot of surprises. Part of me feels like will I ever get chosen for one weekend as a priority over medicine.